Now Trending WORLDWIDE - BROKEN MARRIAGES

Broken Marriages, is this a common thing now? As we hit the new generation, more and more cases of broken families are there.  As if, it's already normal for people to marry then divorce or get annulment/separation after a while.  This is not common in the Philippines before, as much as I know when i am still a child, couples tries to save the marriage as much as possible, for the sake of the children, reputation and so on.

But as time passes by, separation and annulment in my country became a normal thing..  What are the common causes of this break-ups?

The number one cause of it is:

1) INFIDELITY - or cheating, or adultery, or having an affair. Call it whatever you wanted but still it's the same.  The most excruciating feeling a partner could ever feel (believe me it is), is to be in this situation.  I don't know why this one becomes a common thing to couple, maybe because

   a) LOVE IS GONE? - There could be a lot of reasons why someone falls out of love with their partner.

   b) SEX-EXCITEMENT... When the bed gets boring the situation gets tough, or when one of you are not that active in sex anymore.  As years passes by there will be more responsibilities, kids are there, work pressure, financial status and so on.  There could be a lot of changes even on your sex activities, sometimes one prefers to sleep and take rest rather than to do that intimacy on bed.  

   c) APPRECIATION/CARE - Admit that, Men and women needs appreciation and caring from their partner.  A simple "Thank you" or "I love you" means a lot and can change a lot.  If one fails to have this sometimes partners feels unwanted or unloved.  Correct me if I am wrong.

   d.) EGO - Sometimes, men/women check or wants to know if they are still attractive to opposite sex, so they will try their charisma, the problem is if this re-checking gets worst and puts you in a situation you can never go back.

   e) Or simply, your partner is just a cheater.. period.

2) ATTITUDE - It is not just INFIDELITY or cheating your partner are the reasons why couples decides to part their ways.  ATTITUDE is a BIG FACTOR.  In the first three years of marriage we call it as an ADJUSTMENT PERIOD, learning how to accept each other's positive and negative aspects, embracing one's weaknesses.  Teaching each other the likes and dislikes, do's and don'ts in a relationship.

But if one of you can't adjust during this period, being together is just as tough as you can imagine and one thinks how to get out of this relationship whatever it takes.

3) FINANCIAL STATUS - Let's admit it, financial stability is very important.  Especially if you are having children.  It is very important to work together and help each other during this situation,  never to give up or leave each other during the hard times.  But if one of you is like not doing anything or just not taking this predicament seriously, then the partner may give up also.  

4) RESPECT - They say, time will come that the love will fade.  This happens, even with  married people that still are together.  This aspect is very important, Never to loose the respect for each other.  When you have respect to your partner, even if the love fades away as years gone by, you can still try to work on it and regain the love for each other.  If not, you will still have a GOOD relationship after the marriage and this will be the BEST thing ever, not just for the both of you but for the SAKE of your kids.

REMEMBER, in every broken marriages, the real victim here are the kids, not the couples.  We should always consider our children in every decision we make.  

We will always have our own reasons why we can't hold on anymore, but whatever that reason is, let us try to educate and explain further to our children in way that they can understand why we need to make such decisions, guide them because it can create a great impact into their personality as they grow old.  There could be more reasons out there why partners decided to put end to a relationship.  This is just my own point of view.  

I'm In-Love... with my iPhone5s

I am not that techie type of person, But honestly I love gadgets. Before, I am always updated with all the latest mobiles coming out from the market (updated in a sense that I am doing research about their features, their looks and so on) colleagues will usually ask me how or what's better before they decide to buy their own, and somehow I used to have my "expensive one".  Until that became less priority, when you started your family and the budget is so tight. :b 

When I was still staying and working in the Philippines, I am contented with my old model of "Blackberry", the important thing for me there are, at least you can send SMS, phone calls, and some IM.  Frankly, I still have that "fondness" when I see new devices in TV commercials and malls, but (sigh) I just ignored that. :) 

When I arrived here in U.A.E., the only gadget that I have with me are my blackberry and an Apple iPod touch.  For a year that I am using that, even most of the time, i need to reboot my BB and iPod touch needs a WIFI for me to be able to use it, but still, its OK.  Until 1 day, I dropped my iPod and broke the screen, :( Lucky me, that's my only source of Music while travelling :)

Then my boss noticed it, fortunately that time he is going to change his mobile, so he lend me his old iPhone4.  Really, lucky me again. hehehe... So I started to configure it, transfer some data and so on.  Using Whatsapp here is WOW! Setting Up my MS Outlook is so much easy, Outlook Email and Whatsapp are two most important thing for me for my job and communication.

Then the iPhone5s came up and released to the market.  I was thinking what to buy that time, iPhone or Samsung S4 I almost decided to go for Samsung. Some of my colleagues are using Samsung, I must say it's a good gadget with big screens and all, although I am already attached and used to iPhone and for me it is more user-friendly, so I choose this one. Transferring data from your previous phone is so much easy, I always do backup on my iTunes and iClouds, so in case you caught into some software problem you always have your backup data with you, less worry. This costs me AED 2,500.00, whew! But, I never regret that, the applications are amazing, the way you touch it is superb, the screen, the features, the camera, the use of social media, such as facebook, twitter, yahoo messenger, bbm, skype, Instagram and finally, blogger.   Yep, you can now do your blog from your smartphone, anytime, anywhere.  Post, edit, share as easy as 1,2,3.  More convenient for me or for all bloggers out there.  You don't need to grab your laptop whenever a fresh ideas comes your mind.

So, for me this is why I falls-in-love with this mobile, i never knew how much i missed until finally got my own and using it.  It's not because it's the latest or expensive one (but for sure we always consider what we can get in every penny we spend) for me it's worth it.  It makes my life more easy, regarding my work, my blog and other social media use.  ♥♥♥ Happy blogging :D 

"SAPALARAN" sa Gitnang Silangan

I told to myself before, I will never write a blog or post anything until I get a job here in U.A.E., not even my status and update on my Facebook. :) 

Isa ako sa mga nakipagsapalaran na pumunta dito at nagbakasakali na makahanap ng trabaho, umalis ako sa Pinas na me kaba sa Immigration, kasi dami ko naririnig na mga naho-hold kahit kumpleto na papel mo at kung anu-ano pa.  Pero madami pa din sumusubok, yung iba nga ilan beses na na-hold pero nagta-try pa din.

Apply dito, apply duon, lakad, metro, taxi, buti na lang October, palamig na ang klima, mahirap lalo na me kalakihan ako, sobra pawis, sakit na mga paa ko, ilan beses pa ako natatapilok sa sobra layo nilalakaran mo, iwas-iwas taxi pag me time, tipid hanggat maaari..  Interview dito, interview duon.  Sobra kabado ako dahil first time ko na umalis ng Pinas para maghanap ng trabaho sa ibang bansa na walang kasiguraduhan, Daming kakumpetensya, hindi lang kapwa mo Filipino, iba't-ibang lahi din. Minsan maglalakad ka sa me Karama o Bur Dubai, parang Quiapo, Manila lang sa dami ng mga kabayan.  Umaga, gabi basta me time apply online, nagdadasal na me tatawag sa yo para sa interview.  

One time, me interview ako, nagkataon ala lakad mga kaibigan ko kaya sinamahan nila ako, inabutan namin duon mga kapwa Filipino at iba lahi din, lahat babae, lahat naghihintay. Susme isa oras na pala sila duon, suma-total nanloloko lang yung magpapa interview, hindi kami nilabas or hindi na pinipick-up ang calls namin.  Sa sobra layo ng nilakad namin para makarating duon, halos kalahati araw nasayang sa paghahanap pa lang nung lugar.  Buti me mga kasama ako.  Nakakalokang araw.  Minsan naman sa Industrial area ang interview mo, magre-rely ka lang sa location map na ibibigay nila at instruction, so lakasan din talaga ng loob most of the time.  Madami ka mae-experience sa mga interview, "as in madami talaga"

Sobra kaba mo pag naiinterview ka, lalo na iba lahi kakausap sa yo, dugo din ilong ko, at lalo na pag first time mo na mangibang-bansa.  Me mga offers na ako 1st week ko pa lang dito, pero sabi ng kaibigan ko hanap pa. Minsan me mga kapwa Filipino din na mag-iinterview sa yo, minsan sila pa parang nagda-down sa 'yo.  Di mo maiaalis, me kanya-kanya ugali mga tao, pero never mo na i-expect yan sa "kabayan" mo mismo.  

Aba, matatapos na ang 1 month ko, ala pa ako matinong offer, hanggang sa me isa ako interview at pinangakuan ako na iha-hire ako (kakilala kasi ng kaibigan ko) pero nagkaproblema sila sa immigration at gusto na paghintayin ako.  Ako naman dahil mapagtiwala, naghintay.  Nasakit na ulo ko sa kaka-follow-up, malapit na ako mag 2 months, at pag 2 months ka na dapat lumabas ka ng UAE at makakabalik ka lang after 1 month ulit.  Aba, aba hindi puede to, December 07, 2012 ng umaga, naiiyak na ako kaya nag-decide ako na 'wag maghintay sa wala kasiguraduhan, lumabas ako ng flat at bumili ng newspaper, nag-apply ako sa mga add duon.  Apply din online, nakakawala na pag-asa, pero sabi ko di ako susuko.  'Di alam ng parents ko na pumunta ako dito ng wala pa trabaho, pag natawag sila, sasabihin ko "wag kayo mag-alala kaya ko 'to." 'di ako nakibo sa totoo sitwasyon ko.  December 08 morning, me call ako natanggap for interview that afternoon, sinamahan ako ng bestfriend ko for that interview, and wallah offer na the next day.  Immaculate Concepcion sa atin that day, and for me parang sign na siya.  

Then nag-exit ako to Kish Island, Iran bisperas ng Pasko, (ang saklap no?)  Andyan na yung maiyak ka, first Pasko mo ala sa pamilya mo, pero kailangan i-set mo mind mo na bago ka pa lang magdesisyon at umalis ng Pilipinas, alam mo na yan.  10 days ako sa Iran, duon na din ako nag-bagong taon, ang daming Filipino sa Iran, iba't-ibang kuwento, me mga naghihintay ng employment visa, yung iba pinangakuan tapos pinabayaan na, me mga nag-exit na naghihintay din para maka-tourist visa ulit kasi ala nahanapan na employer, mas choice nila maghintay dito kesa umuwi ng Pilipinas kasi ala ka na kasiguraduhan na makakalabas ka ulit or makakabalik ng Middle East.  Kanya-kanya kuento, minsan me magpupunta sa kuarto mo kasi naghihingi na ng tulong kasi ala na sila pambayad sa hotel, which is that time AED40.00/day.  Naging masaya din ang Pasko at Bagong Taon ko duon kasi me mga nakilala ako ng mga kaibigan duon na hanggang ngayun nakakasama at nakakausap ko. Nagluluto kami ng patago, ambagan, basta makatipid lang, bawal kasi magluto sa loob ng hotel.  Hanggang sa bumalik na ako sa UAE, I must say, suwerte din ako sa naging employer ko, kasi palagi nila ako kinukumusta at tinatanong kung okay ako, pinadalhan pa nila ako ng extra pera.  Dito kasi kailangan me bala ka (extra money).  Hanggang makabalik ako sa Dubai, after New Year.

Lakasan din talaga ng loob at maraming dasal, huwag ka bibitaw, Ang araw ng interview ko ang naging sign ko na okay ako dito.  Dasal ako ng dasal ke Lord, At hindi din ako nagkamali, ang turing nila sa akin ay kapamilya, isa siyang small family company at ako lang ang Filipina.  

Mura halos lahat ng bilihin dito, pagkain, electronics (pero medyo nataas na din dahil siguro sa Expo2020).  Ang mapapakamot ka ng ulo is - napakamahal ng bahay.  Naranasan ko na halo-halo babae, lalaki sa isa kuarto, kurtina lang ang pagitan, suerte mo lang na mabubuti mga naging kasama mo.  Nang medyo naka-settle na ako, nakalipat na sa mas maayos at all for girls na flat.  Lahat titiisin mo para makatipid.  Akala ng iba, pag nag-abroad ka, mapera ka kaagad. Susmarya, i-se-settle mo muna ang sarili mo.  Di porke nakikita nila sa FB mo na nakangiti ka, eh super GOOD ka na dito, alangan naman ipost mo na umiiyak ka, lalo na ang "homesick" alang expiration yan, bigla-bigla na lang na umaatake sa yo.

Ang pagiging OFW ay mahirap, lalo na malayo ka sa pamilya mo, Masarap kung me nakakasama ka na mga tunay na kaibigan na kahit paano ay nakakausap mo at nagpapalakas ng loob mo, lalo na kami, bestfriend ko nandito, classmate ko from elementary to HS, kaya less worry.  Andito ka na eh, kesa bumalik ka sa Pinas na walang kasiguraduhan, tiisin mo hanggat maaari para sa pamilya mo.  Pasasaan ba't uuwi ka din at magkakasama-sama na kayo. Pag nag-decide ka mag-abroad, kailangan mo ng baong "tibay ng dibdib" at baon ang "pagmamahal at pangarap mo para sa pamilya mong iniwan sa Pinas".

A Salute to Dubai Police and Emergency Crew - 999

If America have that popular "911", U.A.E. also have it's  own version of "999", When i first landed my feet here in the Middle East, the first thing my friend informed me is this emergency number.  Mostly, we may not give much attention to this info, but it is a must that you know how to dial this three numbers (in fact it is not that hard to memorize, is it? ) in case you are caught into a life threatening or emergency situations.  

I've been working and living here as an expat for more than a year, and Dubai police car are always rounding everywhere.  One day, while inside the office, and as i turned my head towards the glass door, i saw a commotion outside, people rushing in one direction and kept on coming.  So out of curiosity i went out, a few meters away from our office, i saw a car upside down, Ooops, there's an accident.  I was wondering what happened? Or how's the passenger/s?  Then just between 5 to 10 minutes an ambulance came, after that not even 2 minutes interval, here comes the Dubai Police Car.  I was amazed with how quickly they responded to this incident.  From the time this happened, it just took them around 30-45 minutes to clear the place.  

Just minutes later, i heard a little girl crying, as i looked outside again, an ambulance came, and the father (i think so) of this little girl took her inside that vehicle.  One of the crew attended to the child inside and one was calming down the man, then they left.

According to gulf news, hundreds to thousands of calls 999 receives especially during EID, some are minor to major to just simple inquiries and even bogus calls.  

We should consider as a human being that this emergency number are intended to help people, especially for emergency cases, life threatening one. So, I advise you not to make a phone call and add up to the traffic of incoming calls if your intention is just to have fun.  There are people out there that truly needs their help and assistance in a situation we don't know if it's a matter of life and death.  A little care is enough.  And a little time is too much important to save a life. 

And as for the UAE 999 Emergency staffs, police and crew members, Thank you and two thumbs up for you, more power for serving the people of U.A.E.

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Healthy Choices - Part 1 - Your Food Intake

Healthy Choices

Back on my "student" years, I used to be an athlete, believe it or not LOL, I am a varsity player and a captain ball in basketball, also participated in some sports like softball, lawn tennis and so on.  But after i graduated and started working, all this extra curricular activities i already set aside. I became too much busy on my work and family, and honestly speaking i totally forgot to be physically active (or let's say being lazy in other words). So in doing this, what else do you expect? Of course you will gain what you invested, FATS, and lots of it... I never been that conscious before, i ignored that i am gaining weight as years passes by. More and more, and the athlete that i was before was just a memory of the past... LOL!

Friends and relatives are noticing it and asking me "Hey, what happened to you?" But still, i took it for granted.

Then one day, as i looked at myself in front of the mirror, it's horrible, HAHAHA, i wasn't like this before, adding to that i am experiencing difficulty in breathing, getting tired too fast, body malaise, high blood pressure and increasing sugar level (Gosh! I should be aware of this because both of my parent's side have diabetes history)  WOW! This is not right, I have to do something about it. 

So, January 2013 i started to skip red meat, switch my food for more vegetables and fruits, homemade salad and white meat (fish/chicken) & less carbo, of course not forcing myself, slowly i disciplined my food intake, slowly, slowly and surely... Why slowly? Because you don't want your body to get surprise by the sudden change you are doing, and you don't want to faint and put yourself at risk because of doing the wrong diet. Not just to look better again, but to be healthy right?

And who among of us doesn't love sweets, soda, and fast foods?  Well i'm a heck chocolate lover, Super! But as I've mentioned.. DISCIPLINE, that's the first RULE, before i always have that "chocolate thing" inside my bag, but now, I managed to ignore it every time I am passing by a grocery store. Sometimes, you need to satisfy yourself, just to stop the craving, there's always a "cheat day" for me (usually weekends), but still, DISCIPLINE. And you will never go wrong.  

Slowly and slowly, your stomach will get used to it, and so with your body.  I feel good and more alive.  The main purpose for me is not just to get rid of the unwanted fats that i gained for years, but to be healthy and be physically active once again.  Honestly, I lost lots of kilos in just less than a year, with only doing the "healthy diet" alone... Frankly, I am bringing back the self-confidence that I lost before.

I have nothing against being chubby or fat, in fact still i am.  But the main point is to be, to feel healthy once again and to be active, do the things without feeling exhausted easily.  I am proud that I am doing this and changing my lifestyle a little. According to one quote "It's never too late, It's never too bad, and you're never too old or too sick, to start from scratch once again.  And really, it's our choice, and this is my choice, the healthy one.

Talabat.com - Order your Food Online

So here's my starter for 2014.. And since i am now living and working here in UAE, my post would be about this app called Talabat.com, its been a while since i am hearing radio commercials about this site, where you can order your food online.. Either via web or you can even download it in your smart phone, and so i did, i registered and put some information and wallah! Its done. Today as i have lots of work loads in the office, and also my colleague, we can't even have time to stand up and look for some reataurants nearby. So, i what i did i asked him what he wants and showed him this application on my mobile, to make the story short, we agreed and made the online order, in just 30 minutes food is delivered (actually the timing should be 45 minutes to 1 hour maximum)... It's a hassle free ordering, you can choose from different restaurants near your location, and this application i must say is very user-friendly, easy to use. And i myself is promoting this to you guys to try it, especially for busy people like us.. Happy eating. ♥♥♥

I AM A STRONG WOMAN

I am a strong woman

You can hear me laughing

deep inside I am crying

I am a strong woman

You can see me I am standing 

but you never know how many times i fell down

I am a strong woman

Some people seek advises from me

but most of the time i need the same

I am a strong woman

I am a friend whom you can cry on

but also needs someone to lean on

You can say I am a strong woman

I've been broken into pieces for so many times

You can say I am a strong woman

But look deep inside and you can see tears in my eyes

I can say I am a strong woman, 

tested by trials and tested by time

Try to break and destroy me, 

& I will still rise and stand up on my feet

You can say I am a strong one, Yes I am

Yet, I am still a woman.....