Broken Marriages, is this a common thing now? As we hit the new generation, more and more cases of broken families are there. As if, it's already normal for people to marry then divorce or get annulment/separation after a while. This is not common in the Philippines before, as much as I know when i am still a child, couples tries to save the marriage as much as possible, for the sake of the children, reputation and so on.
But as time passes by, separation and annulment in my country became a normal thing.. What are the common causes of this break-ups?
The number one cause of it is:
1) INFIDELITY - or cheating, or adultery, or having an affair. Call it whatever you wanted but still it's the same. The most excruciating feeling a partner could ever feel (believe me it is), is to be in this situation. I don't know why this one becomes a common thing to couple, maybe because
a) LOVE IS GONE? - There could be a lot of reasons why someone falls out of love with their partner.
b) SEX-EXCITEMENT... When the bed gets boring the situation gets tough, or when one of you are not that active in sex anymore. As years passes by there will be more responsibilities, kids are there, work pressure, financial status and so on. There could be a lot of changes even on your sex activities, sometimes one prefers to sleep and take rest rather than to do that intimacy on bed.
c) APPRECIATION/CARE - Admit that, Men and women needs appreciation and caring from their partner. A simple "Thank you" or "I love you" means a lot and can change a lot. If one fails to have this sometimes partners feels unwanted or unloved. Correct me if I am wrong.
d.) EGO - Sometimes, men/women check or wants to know if they are still attractive to opposite sex, so they will try their charisma, the problem is if this re-checking gets worst and puts you in a situation you can never go back.
d.) EGO - Sometimes, men/women check or wants to know if they are still attractive to opposite sex, so they will try their charisma, the problem is if this re-checking gets worst and puts you in a situation you can never go back.
e) Or simply, your partner is just a cheater.. period.
2) ATTITUDE - It is not just INFIDELITY or cheating your partner are the reasons why couples decides to part their ways. ATTITUDE is a BIG FACTOR. In the first three years of marriage we call it as an ADJUSTMENT PERIOD, learning how to accept each other's positive and negative aspects, embracing one's weaknesses. Teaching each other the likes and dislikes, do's and don'ts in a relationship.
But if one of you can't adjust during this period, being together is just as tough as you can imagine and one thinks how to get out of this relationship whatever it takes.
But if one of you can't adjust during this period, being together is just as tough as you can imagine and one thinks how to get out of this relationship whatever it takes.
3) FINANCIAL STATUS - Let's admit it, financial stability is very important. Especially if you are having children. It is very important to work together and help each other during this situation, never to give up or leave each other during the hard times. But if one of you is like not doing anything or just not taking this predicament seriously, then the partner may give up also.
4) RESPECT - They say, time will come that the love will fade. This happens, even with married people that still are together. This aspect is very important, Never to loose the respect for each other. When you have respect to your partner, even if the love fades away as years gone by, you can still try to work on it and regain the love for each other. If not, you will still have a GOOD relationship after the marriage and this will be the BEST thing ever, not just for the both of you but for the SAKE of your kids.
REMEMBER, in every broken marriages, the real victim here are the kids, not the couples. We should always consider our children in every decision we make.
We will always have our own reasons why we can't hold on anymore, but whatever that reason is, let us try to educate and explain further to our children in way that they can understand why we need to make such decisions, guide them because it can create a great impact into their personality as they grow old. There could be more reasons out there why partners decided to put end to a relationship. This is just my own point of view.
4) RESPECT - They say, time will come that the love will fade. This happens, even with married people that still are together. This aspect is very important, Never to loose the respect for each other. When you have respect to your partner, even if the love fades away as years gone by, you can still try to work on it and regain the love for each other. If not, you will still have a GOOD relationship after the marriage and this will be the BEST thing ever, not just for the both of you but for the SAKE of your kids.
REMEMBER, in every broken marriages, the real victim here are the kids, not the couples. We should always consider our children in every decision we make.
We will always have our own reasons why we can't hold on anymore, but whatever that reason is, let us try to educate and explain further to our children in way that they can understand why we need to make such decisions, guide them because it can create a great impact into their personality as they grow old. There could be more reasons out there why partners decided to put end to a relationship. This is just my own point of view.
I DEFINITELY AGREE WITH THAT!!!!
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